The Wild Years, the Wake-Up, and Finding Balance w/ Martin Silva
In this episode, Martin Silva returns for a conversation on how his relationship with alcohol and health has evolved over the years. Martin is a transformation and performance coach with more than twenty years in the fitness world. We talk about the wild early days, how drinking fit into that chapter, and what changed as his goals and priorities shifted. Along the way, we share personal stories and dig into what it really looks like to build balance without giving up the moments that matter. Martin, thanks for coming on again.
Speaker 2:Pleasure, my man. Absolute pleasure.
Speaker 1:Alright, we got to talk all about health and removing being extreme around our diet and fitness. And today we're going get more into mindful drinking. And specifically, you work with a lot of high performing people. So when it comes to alcohol, what kind of patterns do you see that you typically are getting in the way of their energy, their recovery and their results?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so when it comes to alcohol specifically, are we talking about alcohol specifically?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Yeah, great. So with alcohol, it's a big one, right? Because when you overdo it, and you excessively drink alcohol, of course, we all know, it has a negative impact on on every area, right? So when I think of clients that have had that struggled with with alcohol, it's understanding the cue. So for example, some clients, they might have a they get home from work, busy day at work.
Speaker 2:And it's a habit. It's a cue. It's a loop, right? So they get home from work, right stressful day at work, reach for a glass of red wine, for example, right? So it's replacing the feeling that you get from alcohol.
Speaker 2:And I get it is much easier said than done. And it's a process replacing that feeling that might be right, I relax after a stressful day. Okay, well, how can we get that feeling from somewhere else? Can we just go on a walk? Can we, you know, do some yoga, do like a quick workout, even if it's just fifteen minutes, have some play around with your kids, whatever that is.
Speaker 2:And what you find is once you break that, you know, even if you give it like a week of doing that consistently, you then start to replace that feeling. It's a feeling you're chasing right with a different healthier habit. That's kind of number one. But what I would say with clients, I just say, right, rather than trying to, I say to pick their battles, because you got to be realistic as well, right? Most people are gonna have a few drinks here and there, and really for special occasions.
Speaker 2:So I get my clients to really pick their battles. Right? So it's like, okay. So you've got this special event coming up. Right?
Speaker 2:So we gotta make sure that for the most part, we're we're trying to stay away from it. One or two here and there. Okay. If you can have one or two, that's fine. But a lot of people they can't it's not.
Speaker 2:And again, even one or two is gonna have a negative impact. But for somebody drinks a lot excessively, if they can break it down to that point where it's moderation, right, that's a massive win within itself. So yeah, that's a big one. It's like pick your battles. And ultimately, you just got to try and do it, you know, more often than not, you obviously want to be you want to be removing the drinking the drinking from your life.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean? But it is it is definitely a slow process.
Speaker 1:Yeah, for sure. You know, it's interesting. Love to chat about this, because a lot of people from the outside that maybe don't understand like problematic drinking or whatever you want to label it or don't label it. They automatically assume that people that maybe drink too much don't really care about other areas of their life like fitness and nutrition. But that's actually not the case at all.
Speaker 1:Because it's like, if we were like lose to everything, you know, we'd have gambling problems, we've had be addicted to every single thing that you can think of advice. And for me specifically, you know, when I was drinking more than I wanted to, all the other areas actually fell into line. But alcohol was like that one thing that was really difficult. How often do you come across people that maybe, you know, they're doing some things, Obviously, they're going to work with you for health and nutrition and fitness. They they need some assistance in other ways.
Speaker 1:But is that a challenge you come across sometimes?
Speaker 2:Yeah, 100. 100%. And look, like I said, drinking, if you're so many drinks excessively, even if you can kind of reduce that and again, your battles, you're doing it less often. It has a has a big impact. Right?
Speaker 2:But a lot of times, it's an attachment thing is that we're we're attached to to the feeling. We're attached to whatever story we told ourselves. Right, Mike, we've both been there. And environment obviously dictates, you know, obviously, really has a massive, the biggest impact, social influence on your behaviors. So, you know, I think like James Clear says as well, right?
Speaker 2:It's it's much easier. So the way I kind of communicate the clients as well as much easier to avoid temptation than it is to resist it. And this is my experience too. So, you know, I I even every it's it's so rare now. It's more and more rare that I drink.
Speaker 2:Like, I had two drinks actually. We're talking about New Zealand. I went to to Queenstown, New Zealand, and I literally it was my birthday. So I just had, like, two pale ale beers. And it was just for the sake of it, though, for my birthday.
Speaker 2:And that was like, I didn't normally, I would enjoy a few beers up until literally this year or last year where I had it. And I was like, that was literally for the sake of it. So that was even for me on my journey. That was the first time where it's like, it almost like wasn't rewarding. My girlfriend doesn't drink either, at all.
Speaker 2:So I'm like, okay, so that was that was that was a good learning curve and more growth. So yeah, so what I would say is, is just trying to pick your battles, number one. Number two, it's the self compassion element as well, right? I think this is where a lot of high performance type A type people, they really fall down. And I still struggle with this.
Speaker 2:It's like, you're not going to be perfect. What I always communicate is consistency over perfection. If you're making good decisions for the most part, with food, with training, with sleep, or whatever, and then you're having a few drinks, or you're having a night out there and a social because we got to be honest, right? True health is relationships. That's ultimately the most important thing, It's the connections you have with other people.
Speaker 2:So every now and then, let's say you had a social event, and you're having a few drinks, right? Great, like and you're enjoying it, fantastic. And you bounce back, and you're straight back to your habits, like and you're making improvements there. Great. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Speaker 2:But obviously, that's another thing that we need to that I've had to learn to break over the years, which I'm sure you have too. It's like you don't need it to be social, right? And that's kind of the next step, right? And it's not that I ever needed to be social, but that's what my clients struggle with. It's like, know, I'm out and a big one is business, right?
Speaker 2:I'm traveling with work. And it's it requires sales as well, right? Sometimes, or at least they've told themselves that. So they've got these business meetings, they're with all these big stakeholders, whatever. And they're like, I gotta have a few drinks, because everyone's drinking.
Speaker 2:Okay, do you have to have a few drinks? You know, when you actually question them on that, because really, if we're honest, we can say no. Or we can get you know, one of those glasses where it looks like you're having a drink if you want less peer pressure, because that's a challenge. We like the feeling. A lot of times we like to feel them right.
Speaker 2:And you know, if you're around everyone drinking, it can reduce your anxiety a bit. So we just accept that we want that feeling. But do you need to drink in those occasions, you know?
Speaker 1:Totally. And I mean, a lot of times when you can get past that you realize that it really doesn't matter because you settle into the conversation or the atmosphere or whatever it is, like, if you pause before doing that. But of course, like also, it is sometimes to be part of the group feeling, you know, having that drink, like you said, because it's really interesting because, what you said around health and relationships. So I actually heard I don't remember who said this, but it was the extreme. He's a PhD somewhere.
Speaker 1:It was the extreme, but he was basically saying that, you know, studies are saying showing that like younger people aren't aren't drinking as much. But he's like very concerned about the mental health aspects of that, because he's saying that now people aren't going out there on their phones or are doing video games instead replacing actual social interactions. And he's saying, no. They should be going out and going to bars and maybe getting drunk. You know, obviously, this is the extreme because that can lead to other risky and and sometimes, you know, behaviors that lead into adulthood.
Speaker 1:I know it did for me. But I think also like, it's you don't want the extreme where it's just like, I can't, I can't, I can't because then it could be impacting you in other ways, you know, you're withdrawing socially, you're, which then can affect your health. And we already know longevity as far as like social connectivity is so important. But so I'm rambling on this because I
Speaker 2:wanted to just say on that, right, this thing here, this is the most abused drug on the planet, right? We can talk about alcohol. But that's my theory as well, know, okay. Yeah, kids are drinking less and stuff. They're all
Speaker 1:And Martin's holding up his phone, by the way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was holding up my phone. Sorry, it's holding up my phone. Yeah, the iPhone. And that's the thing. You know, like, when I was younger, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2:I had you know, I'm not trying to glorify it, but I had some great times in my twenties drinking and stuff. I wasn't like, yeah, I used to go extreme, and I used to damage myself. And, okay. If I I would like to change some of it, don't get me wrong. Right?
Speaker 2:Made some really poor decisions. But, you know, I still enjoy doing it. And even like having a few drinks when I go to Brazil at the end of the year, her family likes to have a few beers and stuff. I might have a few beers, and I'll probably enjoy it. I I still enjoy the feeling and stuff.
Speaker 2:And I think, you know, that's okay. Right? But over time, what you find is as you get older as well, Mike, that you will feel, you know, you'll feel the pain, right? You'll feel the consequences of it more and more. And it's almost becoming the good thing is now it's like this high performance thing, right?
Speaker 2:Where it's becoming a bit more cool now, kind of not to drink right as well. So I think that's a big one. But yeah, the the phone thing and the social connections is really, really important. But if it if it requires if you're going out with people who are drinking a lot, and all of them are drinking a lot, and you're trying to drink less, then I mean, sense says, you probably want to spend less time with those people. Same with food, right?
Speaker 2:Social influence, you got a fifty percent higher chance of being obese. If you've got a close friend who's obese, that was a study that on millions of people, right? It's the most powerful thing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, 100%. I mean, yeah, it's pretty challenging if you're going to be what is it you're the top percentage of those that you're around with or what I don't I forget the quote. I'm slaughtering it. And I should probably cut this out.
Speaker 2:No, think it's what is it something like, you become an average of the five people you spend the most time with?
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what that's what
Speaker 2:it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So show me your friends.
Speaker 2:That's what I like. Show me your friends, and I'll show you your future. That's like, I always put you that way.
Speaker 1:That's a good one. That's a good one. Yeah. So in bringing it back a little bit to the to you, I actually want to know a little bit more because I did my research and we've chatted a little bit, but I actually don't know, what your story is around alcohol because you said like now you can enjoy a drink. And so I'd love for you if you're open to it to share like kind of your path, know, from youth to where you are now.
Speaker 2:I love to, man. I love to. So firstly, there's a lot of addiction in my family. So I think it's literally me and my mother were the only ones who don't take antidepressants in the whole family. Not to say that, you know, looking down antidepressants or whatever, but that's just how it is.
Speaker 2:And, you know, my father was basically had issues with alcohol and stuff. So with it, it's it's a lot in the DNA. Long story short, right? A lot of it in the family and other substances or whatever. So I definitely had that gene.
Speaker 2:I just did a DNA test as well. Right? So anyway, I Yeah, man, looking back, I was I was the guy in my book one.
Speaker 1:Well, also also, also a drinking culture growing up there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's why I was gonna 100%. So in The UK, I'm glad you said that first, because that's the most important point. The drinking culture in The UK, that is the whole point. That is the whole massive way of lifestyle in The UK. It's literally work in a week, go to the pub on the weekends.
Speaker 2:It's just how you grow up. I I think I had my first drink at 14 or whatever. And, you know, there are people doing all all sorts of other stuff as well. Right? And I grew up in Cardiff as well, the capital, which is a city, so you're exposed to more.
Speaker 2:And, yeah, I was drinking, like, from a young age and then in my twenties. When I got to just before I competed in my early twenties, I got to a point where I was the guy in the group. I'm not proud of it, but I was the guy in the group who was, like, pushing. I couldn't stop, man. It's just like the all or nothing where the I wouldn't want a party to stop.
Speaker 2:And I would be, like, three days later, you know what I mean? I'm like, I'm trying to get everyone to stay out. Like, I was the guy who was the bad influence. Right? I wanna be clear on that.
Speaker 2:Again, not proud of it, but that's kind of who I was, you know, back then. And I, you know, I I used to just abuse it would been drinking. It was been drinking, essentially. It wasn't having a few drinks. But the transition to being able to do it in moderation, that kinda happened after I moved to Australia.
Speaker 2:Even when I moved here eight years ago, trying to fit in, going back to what we were saying, social stuff, drinking more. The drink culture here is huge, just as big as in The UK, if not bigger, to be honest, which was, kinda surprising. Even though in Bondi here, most people are fit in the stuff, people still kinda, you know, do other stuff. But anyway, so that was it. And then it was a slow transition into I got to a point where I I would have, like, literally two beers maybe, maybe three max, and I just didn't have the desire to have any more.
Speaker 2:And and that was for me. Like, I think if you even if you can get to that point, because I've never been a moderator, man, I'm just like, I've always been an all or nothing, right? Like yourself, in some ways.
Speaker 1:I can relate. I can relate.
Speaker 2:Exactly. So yeah, all that to say, that was that was my journey. And, it was a slow transition. But now, for example, I just don't have the desire to drink anymore. And that's, like I say, in Brazil, I might drink because I still enjoy, I'll be honest, I still enjoy like a cold beer.
Speaker 2:I still actually enjoy that experience. Right? So when I go there, it'll be cold beer in the sun, I might have a couple, know, Christmas time and stuff like that, but it'll never be more than like two beers. And again, with the sleep thing, I use the Oura Ring, I've used the Whoop. And that goes back to tracking as well.
Speaker 2:I think that's another thing that gives you that awareness. Five years ago, I started tracking my sleep and recovery and learning about heart rate variability. And that's when it changed me. Was like, okay, this alcohol really does damage you, you know, because it's in black and white. You know what I mean?
Speaker 2:So
Speaker 1:yeah, in real time giving you feedback
Speaker 2:real time, man. Yeah, That's kind of my journey. I know it was kind of like,
Speaker 1:you know, no, it was great. It was great. And, you know, to tack on to the to that is actually to, for the last two weeks, I wore a continuous glucose monitor. And so when you're tracking things, right now, I'm on a break, I'm not drinking, but like, it's certainly like having that thing on. I was like, I definitely don't want to see what happens if I have a drink, right?
Speaker 1:Like, it's so funny how tracking can be a deterrent and a supporting thing that that will give you feedback either, as I said, as a deterrent or as something that would come up and say, it's not doing you any good right here.
Speaker 2:100% at least makes you think twice. Right? Hey, man, I definitely want to say though, right? I want to talk about my lowest point. I can't forget this, the transition point with alcohol.
Speaker 2:I ended up in hospital one night, basically went out. It wasn't just alcohol, right? It was other things. Anyway, it was stupid. And I ended up in hospital.
Speaker 2:Long story short, right? End up in hospital, and I should have died. Right? So basically, heart rate went down to, 25 beats per minute. And thankfully, I was fit and strong from all the years of training and young.
Speaker 2:So I was 25 at the time. So I had luck on my side. And I woke up, they were gonna pump me with adrenaline, actually. And before they did, I woke up and everything was fine. Actually, again, I'm not I'm not proud of this one.
Speaker 2:Look, when you look at extreme behaviors, the next day, I went for like a five mile run. You know what mean? Like, literally bounced out of five mile run, went out the day the night after drinking, didn't do any other like, I learned my lesson, but that was definitely a wake up call for me. And that was probably I don't know. That was the same year I got into bodybuilding.
Speaker 2:After that, I got into the extremes of bodybuilding. So, yeah, that was a big wake up call for me. So I just wanna say for everyone else, you know, I've been to the extreme end of behaviors with food, alcohol, partying, and I've managed to come out, you know, in some ways by the skin of my teeth. But I had some moments where I was like, wow, I've took taken this so far, these extreme behaviors that that pain that I was in mentally and physically was like, man, I've gotta change, you know? So I wanna I wanna, you know, express that to the audience, you know, and I had, you know, mental health struggles in my early twenties as well before that, which I really struggle with, which, you know, I'm I'm if we got time, happy to talk about.
Speaker 2:So I've been for all that stuff, and it's made me who I am. And, I've come out the other side, thankfully. So look, if I if I can do it, and I can do that change, and I can, you know, I can slowly move in the right direction. I know anyone in the audience who's struggling, you can definitely do it. You know, you can definitely do it.
Speaker 1:I love that. I mean, want to hear the the real raw stories because not everybody's perfect. This is life. You know, that's the way things happen. But I do love part of your story in that you can go from one side to another to a moderation.
Speaker 1:Now, everybody's different, of course, like some people can't go to extreme, and the only path out is just to to remove it, you know, but for many people, just like you and many people that are listening and and myself. Yeah. I mean, I was the guy that would go on spring break down to Mexico, and I go with a group of friends and if we had the the place rented for, you know, three or four days, you know, it was like an eight eight day holiday. And I would stay and the second group of people would come in to do the second. And I would so I would, like, stay for the both parties.
Speaker 1:So I know what you mean.
Speaker 2:I'm glad I'm glad we didn't know each other, man, at that time. That would be bad news. Plenty help If we got together, but yeah, my thing was obviously just for the audience IBF. I know you obviously Spain, you've lived there and stuff like that, right? And all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1:That's right.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So IBF, right? So that was I I went there, like, five times. And as you know, right, that's like the party island of the wall problem. Oh, yeah.
Speaker 2:So that was where all the worst kind of behaviors come out and stuff. But, yeah, just for you know, just to give you an example, like, credit to my father. Right? He actually cut alcohol out, and it was the same for him. You know, he tried cutting out.
Speaker 2:I think about he's been clean now for about thirteen, fourteen years. But he tried cutting out, had a had a drink one day. And then that one drink turned into like a bender. And he was like, look, this doesn't work. And for a lot of people, like you say, it's a case of, you know, removing it and getting in the right environment, right?
Speaker 2:If you can get yourself around, I know it's hard to do. But you know, if you can get yourself around people who share a similar vision to you, and they don't drink or whatever, I don't do things that are going to pull you back. You know, it really helps even if it's like, you know, there's certain online communities even you know what I mean? So, yeah,
Speaker 1:totally. Well, and you know, what's one of the interesting things that you said in the last episode, and that is basically, you were talking about, like, you're extreme on the bodybuilding side, you were saying, like, intuitively, I knew this wasn't right. And, and really, coaches work with people to pull the info or the the the goal out of the person so that they know. And anyone that's listened, like, they might think that they want one thing or the other, but intuitively, everybody knows, like, what's right for them. And so some people, like maybe your dad intuitively he knew like, yeah, that is not the right direction for me.
Speaker 1:And some people intuitively know, like, I actually think I can do that. And that is my goal. And at least give it a try.
Speaker 2:Yeah, 100%. 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So I'm curious. So when working with people on the nutrition side, if someone does drink, what are some of the most effective things that they can do nutrition wise or recovery wise to minimize that impact?
Speaker 2:So one of the things right is I was joking to a client the other day, I'm not gonna start promoting people go to the gym, to the pub, the morning to drink, right? The earlier you can drink the better. But that's a big thing though, right? It's like when you're drinking, for example, when I would drink, even if now in Brazil, I drink, right? It'll be it'll be early in the day, right?
Speaker 2:Because I look at the sleep thing, I don't want it to impact my sleep. So that's what I would say, right? It'd be mindful of like doing it in the evening. It's gonna that's the worst thing. It ruins your sleep.
Speaker 2:And then it has a negative impact on on every area then, right? And then you're on the back foot, because your energy is impacted, your decisions with food, all those kind of things. So I try to say that declines. Know that's tough to do, right? Because social events are gonna be in the evenings and stuff, but make them aware of that.
Speaker 2:Two, is is the water thing as well, right? So with a hangover, you know, it's going to be 80 to 90% dehydration for the most part, right? So if you are going to do it, at least I'll set them targets of right, drink a pint of water in between every drink, have extra electrolytes as well. I get them to do maybe before and after drinking, and have a pint of water in between every drink. And generally, they'll drink depending on the behaviors of the person.
Speaker 2:Right? That's not gonna work with everyone, of course. Right? But it'll work in terms of they'll they'll generally drink a bit less, And they'll they'll notice a bit of a difference the next day. So yeah, and I'll just get them to be more focused then.
Speaker 2:So it's like, it's almost like competent. I don't wanna say compensating, but it's like banking up that occasion. So it's like, the week before, it's just, know, that's coming. Let's just tighten up. Right?
Speaker 2:So let's keep the training on point. Let's keep the movement good. Let's make sure your nutrition is is more dialed. And then, you know, I mean, it gives you a bit more kind of wiggle room for that then as well. So that's kind of the things I would say is just to try and make a good decision for the most part.
Speaker 2:And then the other thing then is it just it has to come back to the social influence thing, right? You have because you can say whatever you want, you can be the best coach in the world. But again, it's so hard. It's so much harder to resist that temptation for a lot of people than it is to avoid it altogether. Right?
Speaker 2:So if in in those environments, or you know, you've got a special occasion coming up, again, pick your battles, right? Cut the alcohol out or reduce it significantly leading up to that. And then, know, your body recovers a bit better, you know?
Speaker 1:Yeah, totally. So I'm curious, because you went from an extreme to now you have a couple drinks here and there doesn't do the same thing. Is there was there a middle story there? How it got to that?
Speaker 2:Doctor. Yeah, actually, it was early twenty twenty two. I remember, again, tracking the sleep. I was single at the time, so I was dating and stuff. Right?
Speaker 2:I remember I went on a date, had a few drinks. It was like in January. And again, the the score was terrible. I felt horrendous the next day, like absolutely horrendous. And the following day after that, think I had like four drinks or something.
Speaker 2:So that for me is like, man, like, just cut out. Just cut it out. Yeah. Just cut it out. So I I I I so I I set myself a goal, and I I wanna hammer this one home.
Speaker 2:Three months. Right? I find that for me for three months for clients and stuff, if you can don't get me wrong, I will do that with clients. I will push them to do that as well. I'll say, okay.
Speaker 2:Let's go for let's go for I'm doing this with two clients now. Right? I've got them to aim for thirty days first. Actually, start off for seven days. No alcohol, thirty days.
Speaker 2:And what I'll get them to do, we've got a community. So I'll get them to call out in the community as well. So definitely don't want to overlook this stuff. Like, you know, sometimes you've got to really push yourself with this stuff as well, right? You know, you got to push yourself and you got to hold yourself accountable.
Speaker 2:So I'll get like, one of my clients said it to me, he goes, Yeah, look, I don't want to I said, Okay, Put that in the we know you need this. Right? Put this into the community that you're not gonna drink for thirty days. It's an extra layer of accountability. Right?
Speaker 2:It's that peer accountability. And boom. He done it for the thirty days, then he did for ninety days. Now we're almost six months in. And he I think he did it.
Speaker 2:It was his birthday. I think he had literally one or two, but he's completely changed his relationship with alcohol, doesn't have the desire to drink. And over time, you feel so much better. That's what happened to me. After that three months, I felt so much better.
Speaker 2:And then you take that for granted then. There you go, oh, you know, it's then you have another few drinks and you go, now remember the pain. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1:Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah.
Speaker 2:So that accountability and like getting around people, that's why like with that with our community as well, it's really helpful for that that extra layer of accountability and having people who, you know, have a similar vision and and like minded people, you know what I mean? So, I think I think calling it out and having a group of people that, you know, are gonna push you a bit, you know, that goes a long way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm 100% with you on the ninety days. So I never, you know, I've shared this on the podcast, my own experience. I don't like to be prescriptive on what people should do as the right path because there's so many different paths. It could be like removing alcohol for ninety days, it could be cutting back and sustaining consistency on that cutback plan for ninety days. For some people might take longer, some people might take thirty days for myself and what I see with most people that I know, just given sort of like the nuances and complexity of habit change and breaking that ninety days seems like the minimum to me and maybe you could even go a little bit longer.
Speaker 2:Minimum. Yeah,
Speaker 1:a lot of people think that sounds so long. But like think about all the years that you're trying to sort of like erase that behavior, and it's actually quite sure.
Speaker 2:100%. And that's the thing for me. It didn't even like I said, it didn't completely, like, help me eliminate alcohol. It just changed my relationship with it a bit. So then I was drinking less.
Speaker 2:Yeah. I was just drinking. Like you said earlier, I was just drinking out boredom, you know, going on whatever. So I just like, I don't even wanna go out on dates anyway. Right?
Speaker 2:So I ended up just like, I don't even want that. I'll just I'll do some fun stuff. I'll play volleyball. Again, it's kinda like finding other stuff to do as well, which stimulates you. Right?
Speaker 2:Can can help. But that three months helped me. But yeah, I think you're right, man. That's like the bare minimum, really. If you look at reversing damage, you know, it's decades for some people, right?
Speaker 2:They've been drinking or whatever, you know, to reverse that. Just give yourself more time. You know what I mean? And look, there's there's likely gonna be some speed bumps along the way. There's likely gonna be some hits you take along the way.
Speaker 2:Right? But that's where the resilience is built. I think that's a a good thing. If you can bounce back from that, and you're like, okay, look. Alright.
Speaker 2:I slipped a bit there. But if I look back, pretty impressive how much I've progressed. Let's go You know what I mean? And that's all it is with anything. It's the same with fitness and health, right?
Speaker 2:It's like, I say to my clients, know, you're gonna mess up at times, right? You know, you're gonna mess up, I mess up, we all mess up. That's what I'm here for. We're gonna recalibrate. That's one of the reasons I'm here.
Speaker 2:We're gonna recalibrate. We're gonna set some simple targets, we're gonna go again. You know, that's with any with any behavior, My man, I think that's people need to understand that we don't always share the struggle, don't always see the struggles on social media. So we all struggle, we all fall down. And it's just a case of like, I like to never miss twice thing.
Speaker 2:You know, like I say to clients, try not to miss twice. Look, you had that day, whatever, let's get back the next day. You know, I mean, it's just simple stuff in it. But it's hard. It's really hard.
Speaker 2:I want to say that really hard.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, I did that that whole ninety days thing actually went much longer, kind of similar to the guy that you worked with. And yeah, I didn't come out of that perfect. Like, you know, there's still speed bumps again, and I'll never be perfect. As far as like, just in every asset or aspect of my life, like it's just impossible to hold yourself to a to a perfect level. And then what's really hard also, and I'll be the imperfect person with advice here, because like it, but a lot of us will start listening to people that we perceive as like being perfect.
Speaker 1:And then if we don't meet that expectation of what we think we're trying to get to on their level, then it gets really difficult and hard on ourselves when that doesn't happen, because it's just unrealistic.
Speaker 2:Unrealistic, man, those comparisons. That's why I like I say to clients as well, man, is being aware of who you're following as well, even on social media, right? Because it's subconscious. 90% of the comparisons we do is subconscious. So let's just say for if we take fitness, for example, right, you've got people online, like you follow 50 people who are shredded, for example.
Speaker 2:What's that going to do to you, right? Even if you're not aware of it, you're going to be comparing yourself subconsciously. So that's what I was doing right back in back in the day there. And the same for like alcohol, We look at people online who are crushing it and they may have, you know, like yourself, right? Even people are looking at you like that, like you broke free of alcohol.
Speaker 2:And they look, oh, man, Mike, he's just a different man. I don't think I've got it in me. No, Mike still struggles, man. And so do I. Be aware of that as well.
Speaker 2:Right? So it's and that's another thing as well. There's a thing called there's actually a term now called success addict. It's actually a term they've they've they've found. Right?
Speaker 2:So it's actually a behavioral thing. Right? So, man, we all struggle, Ryan. I think we're all we're all trying our best just to kinda, like, take the hits and keep moving. Can I be Mike?
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah. We're all flawed. Perfectly flawed though.
Speaker 2:Know? Pretty flawed. That's what makes us human. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, hey, Martin, thanks so much for coming on today. This has been a great conversation. I loved our last one. I loved this one. Again, if anybody wants to learn more about you or reach out where they can do where can they do that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, man. So I've got a I've an inquiry form. Maybe I can just send you over the form. I got a coaching inquiry form if they wanna reach out specifically about coaching. I'll just send that.
Speaker 2:But if you wanna DM me and connect with me, just drop me a DM on Instagram, I think, at Martin Silver Fitness. You can also contact me, through the website website, which is optimizeyourbody.com. But, yeah, on Instagram at Martin Silver Fitness. Just feel free to give me a DM. Like, you know, I'd love to connect with you anyway.
Speaker 2:Anyone in the audience has any questions or anything like that, you know what mean? Happy to help either way. So, yeah, definitely check the podcast out as well, though. Optimize your body. Yeah.
Speaker 2:And it's it's my YouTube is Martin Silver Fitness as well, though. Right? But the podcast is actually on there as well. So I know that's a lot for the audience.
Speaker 1:No. No. No. I mean, I think it's great. We tons of ways for everybody, however they wanna connect with somebody to be able to find you.
Speaker 1:So, Martin Martin, thanks so much for coming on today.
Speaker 2:Absolute pleasure, Mike. I could talk to you for hours, man. Really appreciate that.
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